Monday, September 8, 2014

Mary Catherine

She would have been eighteen.  She might have been starting her first days of grade twelve or even beginning the first of four years of university.

The world should have been hers to conquer.

Instead she died the day she was born.  She didn't die because of any inborn error or birth trauma.  She died because her mother chose to leave her in a carport at strangers house on a cold rainy day instead of what would be sure to be a safe place.  The carport was not a safe place as unbeknownst to this mother the family did not characteristically use that door.  Baby was found after she passed.

I'm sure their are many many reasons why this mother did what she did but they are ones that she will likely take to her grave.  I wonder about her a lot.  Is she still living?  Is she productive?  Is she educated?  Did she go on to have more children?  Then I wonder what would happen to her if her identity was found.  We can assume there would be a list of charges against her the biggest being the child's death.  Depending on the life she is living now would it serve anyone to incarcerate her removing her from might be a life of contribution?  What if she is someone not living up to her potential perhaps acting as a detriment to society?  Would we be more likely to incarcerate her then?

What remains in the end is that this little person was cheated out of any kind of life.  She however was not born in vain and without leaving a dramatic mark on society.   She forever lives on in my heart.  I think of her as Mary Catherine, the name I tried to give her in my attempt to assume legal guardianship of her remains eighteen years ago.  Unfortunately you cannot adopt or take legal guardianship of a person who did not exist.....  No live birth record.....she did not exist.

Mary Catherine left this world to forever to be labelled....Baby Jane Doe.

She has a legacy though, my teeny little Mary Catherine.  She taught me what to do when other babies follow her.  Because of her I know who to contact to get ensure that there is a public funeral, a proper burial and a marked grave in a specific part of the cemetery.  I have had to put these skills to work a few more times but as many times in these situations family is eventually found leaving my services unnecessary as the baby then has family.  Baby John Doe sleeps in a cemetery north of us in the province....or Michael as I have named him.  His story a little more tragic as he was put in a dumpster.

It is my belief when these babies are abandoned like this they belong to the village.  WE are the village and it is up to us to claim them, provide for them, mourn for them and remember them.

Happy Birthday Mary Catherine!  September 7, 1996

Share some of your heavenly birthday with Ailish and Michael too.  Kisses to all of you

Thursday, September 4, 2014

As follow up to my last post I just saw on the news that lack of sleep eventually causes brain shrinkage.

This is my new excuse for everything

disorganization reigns supreme

Man alive I wish I could grasp onto some degree of organization.  I know I know, everyone thinks that because I have thirteen kids that I must be so so organized.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Take today for example.  I pulled one of the teens out of school to go for her postop check at the children's hospital.  You know when you get there and the receptionist gives you a combined look of confusion and fear that this is not going to bode well for a successful appointment.  Her confusion comes from the doctor not having any more patients that day so why would we be standing before her saying we have an appointment.  Her fear comes from waiting to see who's fault it might be and if it was the clinic was I then going to have a meltdown right before her eyes.  Being I know myself all too well I inquired as to whether the appointment might indeed be tomorrow at the same time.  Not shocking to me it is.  In trying to rectify the situation and knowing we could be a quick check I inquired as to whether the doctor would be able to still see her because I know clinics like to mess with their timing to accommodate dopes like myself.  Turns out he was all ready behind so we will repeat the events of this morning tomorrow.

If that was not enough I return home to a message that I had missed an appointment for one of the others.  Yay me!  I love to make my incompetence plainly obvious.

Tomorrow's a new day where I can hopefully document on the calendar, read the calendar and once again create the facade that I indeed have it all together.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

new business

 I have had an epiphany regarding a new business venture. I am going to start making ALCOHOLAGRAMS. I figure business will be especially good in September, December and June with teachers, school administrators and support staff my main demographic. Parents will send them as teacher appreciation gifts for the holidays and year end or just in gratitude for dealing with really tough behaviours some of the students exhibit. Teachers might choose to send them to each other as little pats on the back when they see a peer in need of encouragement. Administrators could send them as a reward for a job well done and as an incentive to continue going that extra mile. I think it is likely I might have that summer home I have always dreamed of....

Monday, September 1, 2014

If you were a white cane put away at the end of June.....where would you be the night before the first day of school?

Hypothetically speaking of course....

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

More pics. Man I wish I knew how to make this blog look better!

During our time in the mountains I thought I would not let my children outdo me in the parallel bar event.  I drew the line at standing on them...




I KNOW RIGHT?!



It really was a good day




At the risk of of sounding more crazy than usual....
This butterfly hung with us while we gassed up.  Along with doing a butterfly release a few months after Ailish died with all our friends and family we did another with just us at this location a month after.  I like to think Ailish came with us again.....

The main lodge.  So gorgeous...both the child and the location

Out of order but I can't fix it.  Oh well!

Monday, August 25, 2014

A peek at our summer

Nothing exciting to post.  The summer has been great as far as weather has been concerned and we have all enjoyed it.  The big kids have their adult day programs as usual and with some encouragement I have finally got the staff there offering more outdoor summer activities.  I shouldn't have to be telling them this but.....

The teens have had their first taste of employment.  They have each been hired as one to one aides at a camp for kids with disabilities.  They were each excited to have the cash and though neither of them  is afraid of hard work if the need arises there eyes were opened to what is in store for them after graduation this coming school year.

The seven year old attended this same camp.  It is a great camp and a good introduction for her as it is well staffed with counsellors who are not afraid of kids with behaviours and in the end the child didn't show them too much short of one day.  It was a leap of faith for me.  At seven she is the youngest I have ever sent one of my kids to an all day camp however she was ready for it.  When the teens were her age they probably would have been ready too but they had each other to play with so it was Camp Mommy for them.

We have done a few day trips but nothing more than that as far as travelling.   I thought we might do a bit of a trip the last week before school started but one of the teens is having day surgery and we're not sure what recovery will be.  Turns out the weather is going to take a turn in all directions I thought we might go so I guess it is local we will be.

Here's a few pics of summer fun.  Beach day, an afternoon in the mountains and bubbles.  Life is always better with bubbles